Transgender Day of Remembrance
Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) is a worldwide event held every year in November as close to November 20th as possible. TDOR is held to raise awareness and address discrimination, violence, and murder of transgender, intersex and gender-non-conforming people, to commemorate the lives of people killed each year by such violence, to show solidarity with transgender, intersex, and gender-nonconforming people by their friends, families, and allies in the face of this violence, and show a commitment to making the world a safer and more accepting place for people of all gender identities and expressions.
These issues affect everybody - not just people within the transgender community. Anybody who in any way steps outside of gender stereotypes can be at risk for discrimination, violence and murder. These issues are intersectional. A disproportionate number of murder victims are transgender women of color. Many attacks against Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual people are directed against their gender expression or presentation.
The Transgender Murder Monitor (TMM) Project website is found at https://transrespect.org.
EDITOR'S NOTE: There will be a ceremony Tuesday, 11/20/2018 at Briedert Green Park, from 7 – 8 PM 432 W Nebraska St Frankfort, IL 60423.
The Many Hues of the Transgender Rainbow
The rainbow is the well-known symbol of the LGBTQ+ community/movement. It is meant to symbolize the amazing, beautiful diversity of sexual orientation and gender identity among human beings. However, we need to keep in mind that there is great diversity with each LGBTQ+ “group.” Lesbian, gay, transgender, intersex, and others each have their own rainbow of people and personalities.
My personal conflict
I am most familiar with the transgender rainbow. Although I usually think of myself as an occasional fetish crossdresser, rather than a “true” transgender, the fact is that I am often conflicted over this matter. I have been conflicted ever since I was a child, and now, at age 58, I am still somewhat conflicted. I go through periods when I intensely believe that I really do want to be female, and I contemplate living more often as a woman or even starting hormones or other medical/surgical transition procedures. But, although I know that people older than me go through transition, I usually end up concluding that I am too old to start that now. Plus, I know that the time will always come again when I am perfectly happy being a man… and I’ll grow out my ZZ Top beard again! (If I were to ever get SRS, I know I would be among those who later regret it.)
So that is my individual stripe in the transgender rainbow—what can I call it?—perhaps “alternating fetish crossdresser/wanna-be transsexual/just regular guy”? Or, in the modern terminology, probably “gender flexible/fluid”? The one thing I know for sure is that it is complicated—much more complicated than the simplistic media coverage would lead the uneducated public to believe. And I know that there are many other people who are also chronically conflicted over their gender identity.
I also know that there are many people who are not conflicted at all over their gender identity. They have known for certain since childhood that their body did not match the identity they had in their mind. And they have spent their lives trying to correct that mismatch. Those are the people I tend to think of as true transgender. But even within that “category,” there is much diversity.